Simmering with rage is like a pan of liquid boiling steadily.
To see red is an idiom about getting angry. It could describe a sort of red mist coming down in front of one’s eyes. Does this really happen?
Get one’s hackles up. Hackles are the long feathers on a cockerel’s neck. In days when cock-fighting was popular no explanation would have been needed for this expression about becoming angry.
To have a tantrum is a way of drawing attention to oneself. The Concise Oxford Dictionary describes it as an outburst of temper or petulance. Children may have tantrums due to frustration at their inability to perform as well as they would like to or just as a form of rebellion.
They give me the pip means they annoy or irritate me. This comes from the slang meaning of the word pip meaning a fit of disgust or depression. Seeds of certain fruits are pips and so are stars indicating an officer’s rank. There are other meanings as well.
Rubbing someone up the wrong way annoys them. Young children are taught to stroke pet animals the way their fur grows.
You either love it or hate it. Marmite?
British Marmite Photo credit Wikipedia http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Marmite.jpg
In a quandary is not knowing what to do. Decisions, decisions
Get a grip means pull yourself together. Or take control of your situation. People grip things with their hands, which is perhaps how a hold-all acquired the alternative name of a grip.
A real set-to is a fierce argument.
Tit for tat is the equivalent of the Old Testament ideas of an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.
Pick a quarrel is to go looking for a heated argument. Sometimes after a quarrel it can be very difficult to kiss and make up.
Cross swords with is a metaphor going back to the days of sword-fights.
A bone of contention is an issue, which people cannot agree over.
Fight or flight are the two choices facing people where there is the likelihood of a disagreement.
An amicable arrangement is a friendly one which may have been arrived at by negotiation.
I don’t begrudge you that because I am not jealous.
To hold it against someone that…
…is another way of bearing a grudge.
Bear a grudge means carry it around with you.